The realization is more about DIS-IDENTIFICATION with the ego in whatever form it exists. It is about being identified with the formless quality-less infinite consciousness. It is not about removing the ego. It is about being dis-identified, realizing that you have infinite choice and freedom, and that you have infinite adaptability and flexibility to create any ego you deem best serves the reality appearance.
The ego needs to exist, because without that, there is no basis for reality, no coherence, just complete noise signal. The ego is the prism of this noise signal of reality, and it converts it to a defined coherent picture or movie.
My quest is to move more and more towards better creating an authentic self/ego for myself, and live with it in a way that serves (in harmony and awareness) the ultimate reality of consciousness as it appears moment to moment.