On Rejection

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‘Rejection’ is the withdrawal of the ‘power supply/investment’ itself.
[‘Reality objects’ dependently arise from relationship]
So every-time there is hope and effort, and if rejection follows, then that:
{hope/investment -causing-> Efforts} = everything is wasted.
If this happens 1000s of times, you will get total drained from being unable to plug into the larger circuits, you have to withdraw your actions/efforts and go back to the philosophical drawing-board/introspection/remapping/reexamination.

Interestingly, very often, negative relationships are preferred to rejection.
Because when you are attacked, you are still validated as SOMETHING – a foe/a hateable person/a punishable person.
There is some identity that is being upheld and sustained by the attacker of you.
That is why when a void of neglect is created in a child’s life, it generally fills the void with a negative relationship, of, “I must be bad/defective in some way and that is why as a punishment I am neglected and if I do right I can earn back the love/involvement/relationship/inclusion into life”.
This could result in that child pursuing self-improvement/self-flagellation for the rest of his/her life to earn the missing affection/relationship.

Let’s take the case of a negative abusive relationship.
The person is allowing you to [be something] by virtue of his/her relationship to you -> and stirring up some [stimulation/some emotion/some drama/some engagement].
But in rejection -> it is like pulling the plug off.
The other gives you no sustenance whatsoever, and since reality is ‘dependent- arising’, when any one side withdraws, it comes to an end.
And your social-identity/ego is made up of nothing but the [conglomeration of all the projected images of others on you as relationships].
Relationships with others make -> ‘YOU’/your social identity/your ego.
Relationships with your internal imagination world objects keep those objects alive.

Say you are looking for a soul-soul relationship or individual-individual relationship, but everyone you know is plugged into a social system/circuit/frame.
In that case, you participating in their FRAMES is to only give strength to the already large-network they are invested in.
It is like investing the little money you have into a [large multinational corporation].
Firstly your [peanuts investment] means very little to the multinational.
Secondly, the person you are giving that too, who is inside the [power-grid web of that multinational] is only one of its agents and he could care less if he loses one supporter, even if you walk away.
But you know what, you would have lost a LOT of investment energy in that transaction.
For a person not invested, the social entities are just [larger impersonal uncaring alien organisms] that expand and take as many [life energies/souls] into their structure.
People are plugged into these systems/reality power-grids, and the life of these systems COMES FROM the PEOPLE who are PLUGGED INTO THEM -> creating a circulating circuit that gives power to the system.
The entire definition/structure/sustenance of these systems comes from the common investment of a LARGE number of people.
That is why people who have a ravenous desire for power will always go after the most popular well accepted things, because those circuits carry the most power from carrying the investment the highest number of people.

This is digressing from the original topic, but what I wanted to communicate here was that, if you desire an [individual-individual relationship] but find that 99% of the people you know are plugged into various social games and the only windows of relationship they provide you are for you to participate in those impersonal frames, it will eventually drain you.

The relationship between fear and desire

Fear is a relationship between “Your desire” and the “World’s condition”.
Even your definition of ‘What is a fear/threat’ is relative to ‘Your desire’.
Right now, if your knowledge (whatever you have) gives you enough freedom to pursue your desire, you will have well-being.
Once your desire grows far beyond this world, you will want to transcend (maybe now or later this life or after 100s of lives).
To give an example, say a bird sitting at your window threatens to leave you.
It is not a threat at all, if the bird is not your desire at all.
Only things that are your desire can be threatened.
If you have insulated yourself from all threats and ensured your desires stay confined to only where you have 100% control, then you will have 0 fear.
There is no fear for LOSING something you never desired.
Fear comes only when we desire something that is out of our control.
For instance, desire of human relationships is much more precarious that desire of material objects, because they are not as controllable as the material counterpart. One then is more vulnerable to both fear, and the pain of loss which is the eventuality that the fear guards against.
All fear is a defense from loss.

Others can never give you love

Others can never give you love.
That is the illusion.
You witness the love that they give you and that gives you permission to love yourself.
It is a core belief of: “I will give myself love only if it is proved by others i.e. by them validating that I am lovable”.
So all the love is not from others, or the world, or from objects.
It is all from you only.

Everything is relationship

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To know one object, you have to know all other objects and its relationship to all other objects.
Now what is an object? = It is its relationship to other objects.
What is the other object? = It is the relationship of that to all the other(complement) objects
So the world of objects is like the world of the dictionary.
Like how the dictionary defines words from words.
It is basically a web of relationship.
Similarly the world of objects is very similar.
Every object is defined by its relationship to every other object.
So no object exists independently.
All objects exist only in MUTUAL INTERRELATIONSHIP to each other.
So every-THING/every object is relationship itself.
There is only relationship.
Even the self exists in relationship to all others.
The self itself IS THAT RELATIONSHIP to all others.
Even the other’s existence IS THE relationship it has to the rest of the others and the self.
So again everything/every-object/every-person exists ONLY IN TOTAL MUTUAL INTERRELATIONSHIP.
Nothing has independent existence apart its relationship to other things.
All knowledge is knowledge of RELATIONSHIP.
To KNOW an object completely is to KNOW its relationship to every other object.
So one must know the whole infinite universe, to know ONE object completely.
One can see the whole universe reflected in one object, if that object is kept in the center(frame of reference) and all its relationships to every other object are mapped from this point.
Similarly I can see another object as the center, and that would then become the center of the universe, again reflecting all other objects within itself as relationship.
So knowledge contained in every object is unlimited, because each and every object reflects the infinite (Brahman, Ultimate).
This is often reported as an experience on LSD, where you can shift your central point of view to any object in your perception and make that the central point of the universe, and thereby see the whole universe as reflected from that object’s point of view (which explains how some could see the whole universe reflected in an ordinary object like an ashtray).
With the knowledge potential being unlimited, we usually add limiting factors to knowledge based on its usefulness and relevance, basically based on our own desires and our own point of view, which can also be said to be a relationship of “our own forces” to the “infinite forces of the universe/ONE”.
So there are no objects, people or things, but rather there are only arrows pointing to arrows pointing to arrows and so on.
Its all part of a music.
The objects of the universe are all part of a song of dancing inter-relationship and have no intrinsic existence.

Existence is sex

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Life is revealed by movement, by interaction, and by relationship,
of various energy forms.
Energy forms interact with each other in a grand stage,
and transform each other endlessly.
Isn’t that what we could call ideal sex?
Life is ecstasy. Life is Sex.
Isn’t this what is happening all the time?
It is one grand ecstasy.
If we choose to delineate this one field into things/objects/people,
i.e. as distinct energy forms separated by boundaries,
then all of these things/objects/people are eternally having sex.

Enmeshment/Entanglement Issue

I am unable to maintain my preferred reality against another’s reality frequency.
For example, if the person with me says – I hate X, then it is like:
Other person ———HATE————> X
Me ———————————> X
My relationship to X is [undefined] and is [open to influence] like a mirror.
So I get influenced by the other person and this affects my perception:
Me ——————HATE—————-> X
Now I do not want to hate X, and I feel powerless/helpless to change that HATE relationship towards X, which is not my preference, and which is osmotically being transferred to me by the other’s presence.
Its as if, if I don’t already carry a strong opinion about something (which is rare), then that opinion slot is simply open and receiving, and downloads the other person’s opinion (‘imagined by me’ or ‘clearly stated by the other’).
Its as if my whole substance is like a mirror.
I mirror the other person’s opinion and it is not my inner preference.
So then, I attack the other person for HATING X, and try to convert the other person into LIKING X, so that the mirroring will allow me to like X, which is my actual preference.
In that person’s presence, it is almost impossible for me to see X in any other perspective apart from how the other sees X.
So the silliness is that, I try to change the other person into liking X, so that I can like X.
The core belief seems to be: I do not give myself permission to have a relationship with a person/thing other than what the person next to me has(really stated or imagined). I fear having a contrary view, contrary opinion, contrary world view etc. I also fear being more open than the other, and I tend to contract my viewpoint, direction of energies, energy structures to match the other’s openness. Its like I am at the mercy of the other and the only control I have is to AVOID or CONFRONT. But the confrontation is only so that, I can ultimately have my own preference back.

This sounds really silly, but this is a DEEP ENMESHMENT/Entanglement issue.

The connection between power and resistance

The experience of power is possible only when overcoming resistance.
Power is when you push(force) against a resistant force – could be a medium/field/object etc.
So power needs resistance.
If there is no resistance, power is irrelevant.

Power also needs separation.
Power is a relational quality between 2 separate forces.
The relation of one force with another force.