Mistaken essence is the cause of sorrow/suffering. There is only God/Brahman/Field/Consciousness. That is the only essence. All else that is experienced is the play of this singular essence. So no part of what is seen is essence. The mistake is to mistake any part of this play to be essence.
It is like gold that is continuously being remodeled and smelted. Here gold is the essence, and all of the ornaments made with it are subject to change. So no ornament-form is essence. Similarly no form in existence is essence. Essence is formless and quality-less, And it is not graspable as an object. One can only be it and experience it directly.
Another analogy would be a VR game, Where only the “hardware/software/power” are real. The rest of experience is just the play-out of those 3 as the flow of time. This is analogous to our essence play as the BME (Body, Mind, Energy) process in time.
No thing is real, and no thing exists. Only god/brahman/field/consciousness exists. The evolution process is the play/dream of this field, And our individual experience is like a figment of this evolution process.
All sadhana is preparation, That is, it is the work towards creating the conditions, For the opening to happen, And for the bounty of life to be received. In my understanding, Karma = Work/Effort/Sadhana that leads you towards or further into bondage/illusion. Kriya = Work/Effort/Sadhana that leads you towards liberation/freedom.
When mothers or fathers do not extend a bond to their children, The children may create an “idealized fantasy parent” and then seek for a reflection of that in the world. The reasons for why the mothers/fathers did not extend the bond could be related to their own past. After all they too were children at one time, subject to parents who might have done the same to them, and so on. The parents themselves might be victims of the same, pursuing an ongoing project of meeting an impossible ideal [parent imposed or self created (usually an oppositional reaction)] and redeeming themselves. So like the game of passing the parcel, they pass on their own failed project to their children, who then either continue that or choose otherwise.
PS: The roles of parent and child are in a kind of looping rotation. …Parent -> Child[Parent -> Child[Parent -> Child…
So this goes on and on in the threads of family lineage and genetics. In such cases, each next generation gets wounded by the projection of the ‘previous generation ideals’ on them. Then the next generation either make their own counter ideals or try to fulfill the projected ideals, and accordingly seek in the world. For such family systems, whole threads of genetic lineage then live off an attachment system that is entirely ungrounded/disconnected and based in the imaginal/imaginary spaces of ‘fantasy/ideals/mythic creations’. It is a kind of primal disconnection and dissociation from reality itself, by moving attachment to the imaginary rather than what actually exists.
This also has a close connection to idol (imaginary gods) worship, Which is also based on projection of ideals.
When forming relationships/bonds, I’ve noticed there are 2 clear categories: # The people who bond in reality/actuality # The people who bond in idealization/imagination I’ll talk about the 2nd category here. When both the partners meeting each other have an attachment to their internal idealized figure, they start to project the ideal onto each other. The agreement then is more like a fantasy role-play: “You play my fantasy, and I will play yours.”
There are different relational dynamics that can happen from here. One of them is: One of the parties projects the ideal onto the other, and the other tries to live up to that to secure the bond. Generally the one with the narcissistic wound will take it upon himself/herself to live up to the other’s ideal projection. “If only I can improve myself, strive, and be good enough, to meet the other’s ideal, then I can secure my bond with them.” The one projecting the ideal does so from some kind of primal entitlement that somehow escaped the socialization process. They are like the demanding baby that expects the whole world to come and serve their needs.
A relationship like this could work, if the fantasy projections are doable and somehow align (socialization generally tempers the ideals to realistic levels). But most of the time, the ideals are intense and impossible. In a way, by very definition, ideals are impossible right? Reality is always something else. So often in such relationships, there is alternating role play, Of the projector and the adapter. Both the parties wound each other’s real selves with each other’s ideals.
The bond is never secured from start to end. However these relationships kindle the inner flames of longing, passion, intensity, purpose, hope and other such feelings. In that sense they are like an adventure and gratify you with the above feelings. They make you forget your pain of disconnection and lostness. They are exciting but empty and illusory – like an extended more involving movie.
Imagine you were really thirsty and ran with full passion and joy towards a mirage in the desert. This experience is something like that. When you do reach the actual sand patch where the mirage was seen, The water has disappeared, and now the mirage has receded to the horizon again. This is how ideals are unsatisfiable and impossible. Even the conception of these ideals keep shifting to more and more complex and impossible forms. No depiction can fully capture the fantasy/ideal.
Various traumas and deprivations may be instrumental in what directions and forms these ideals take. Ultimately we long for the infinite. And when we focus this longing onto the realm of relationships, The above patterns happen. Relationships are a stepping stone and not the end goal itself. If seen that way, and if both the partners are actually seeking god through the relationship, The relationship will only raise them higher.
The deepest fear is the ‘fear of death’. It is not ‘death’ itself that is feared (because it is unknown), but the ‘fear of death’. The fear is of the ‘image of that possibility’.
Fear is not about the actuality but about the possibility (as imagined). Fear is the projection of a negative possibility onto the unknown. But it derives its substance from the past memories/known. So the unknown is defended against, by fear.
All fears are illusions though, because: “Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists.” So in a way, our greatest fear is of total disillusionment.
I feel the deepest desire/longing is the desire for: Liberation, Mukti, Transcendence, Enlightenment, The highest possibility, To merge with the deathless source, The desire for God itself (omniscience, omnipotence, omnipresence).
I think all other desires and fears are different mixtures of the above 2. Like how sugar and salt is mixed in different proportions in different foods. They all taste unique, but carry these 2 essences.
When the heart is fully cleansed, It radiates deep devotion. It feels like a boundless vacuum, or an infinite fall. It is like falling in love, but with the fall never ending, Because it is a state inspired and generated from within, not from outside conditions. Devotion is the highest expression/potential/possibility of the heart. Devotion is just you being really straight and committed to your own deepest desire/longing.
Karma means ‘action’ (verb). Samskhara means ‘imprint/engram’ (noun). In colloquial usage though, karma and samskharas are used interchangeably.
The mind in its clear pure state is like a clear mirror, Where it simply reflects reality exactly the way it is. Now, imagine a mirror that holds memory. Suppose you go on a trip and carry the mirror to various places. On returning home, you would be seeing colorings/ghosts of the past all over the mirror image, right?
This is the nature of a mind loaded with samskharas (impressions/imprints from the past). The completion process (samskhara dahana kriya) is about thinning out these imprints, so that you can eventually see clearly through them.
One good visualization to imagine this is: Imagine you are holding a ‘color checker board’ in front of you.
If the color slots on the checker board are totally opaque, then, you can only see the color and nothing through it. If the color in the piece is made more and more transparent (decreasing opacity), you would gradually start to see what is behind the color piece more and more. After reducing the opacity i.e. thinning the color to a certain point, you would be able to easily see through it even if there is a bit of coloring still present, right? This is what is done in the completion process.
Generally in psychology, when the light of your consciousness shines through the color pieces in the checkerboard, it is known as ‘projection’. # If the color piece is totally opaque, then there is ‘total projection’. That is, you are entirely seeing your past imprint and nothing of the actual reality in front of you. Total projection completely obscures reality. # If the color checker board has no colors and if all the colors are replaced with clear glass pieces, then there is no projection at all, and you are directly seeing what is in front of you with no coloring. There is then 0 projection. So essentially, the spectrum is like this: Projection(0% transparency) ——- (50% transparency)——- Reality(100% transparency)
For most of us, there is a wide spectrum of opacity variation for these color pieces. It is neither 0% nor 100% transparent but somewhere in the middle. Positive colored pieces make us see life through positive colorings (seeing through rose tinted glasses). This is commonly referred to as good karma. Negative colored pieces make us see life through negative colorings/lenses (seeing through a hell bent mind). This is commonly referred to as bad karma.
The very process of living exhausts karma (colloquial usage). The main difference between a regular person and spiritual seeker is that the spiritual seeker exhausts the karma at a much higher intensity. Exhausting karma here means thinning the colors out. All samskharas in a way are partially unlived or undigested experiences. That is why they continue to color our present experience. To digest all these imprints is therefore the goal of the completion process. In a way, these positive coloring and negative coloring set of lenses are what you call your identity (that is, the combination of our specific likes-dislikes). So in the completion process, you are also thinning your identity out and eventually merging with the actual reality.
Consider the experience of eating physical food from a plate. At first we have a more intense experience of it in our tongue, And then we experience the more subtle experience of the consumed food getting digested, right? Then what follows is, the nutrients are extracted and the remaining food is sent out. Similarly, Karma is food for the gods/soul. Digestion of karma (the completion process), enriches the soul with wisdom which are the nutrients in this case.
Will power (the experience of it) is when you are resisting. No resistance = No willpower. Your very existence as an individual is from the action of resistance. Cease to resist and you will cease to exist as an individual at all. That is where this saying probably comes from: You are when god is not, When god is you are not.
It is possible to relax out of one’s identity itself. For instance, unconsciously every night, Our very identity relaxes its inherent resistive action in deep sleep, Where our individual experience ceases, And this gives a great deal of rejuvenation.
The idea of causation begins with you.
If you see yourself as the ‘doer’,
You would accordingly see causation everywhere.
On the other hand,
If you see yourself as a non-doer,
That is, as an effect (of a deeper mystery/plane of forces) rather than a cause,
Then you see the same mystery reflected everywhere outside too.
Our perception of the outside is a fractal projection,
Whose pattern self-replicates from our inner pattern/understanding/view.
The depth to which you know yourself,
Is the same depth with which you see the outer existence.
In math, we can see 0 as nothing or everything.
In conventional math we take 0 to be nothing.
However, we can also take 0 to represent ‘everything’,
Which would mean 0 would represent ‘infinity’.
Many concepts in spirituality would fit in much better,
In this system of ‘infinity math’ (0 as everything).
Generally, we think black is no color and white is all colors.
But the truth of this is more intriguing.
A black object absorbs all the wavelengths of light,
And therefore emits nothing.
Whereas the white object reflects all the wavelengths of light,
And therefore absorbs nothing.
So really it is the ‘Black’ that contains all the colors.
Silence we generally see as the absence of sound.
But actually, silence is “ALL SOUND”.
The term “deafening silence” fits in well with this.
Silence can be too intense to take,
Hence we make sound.
So Infinity/Whole/The ALL/The Everything/God/Superset = Black, Silence, Zero.