I’ve seen 2 kinds of relationships in my life: # Connections through resonance # Connections through projection/role-play
Connecting through resonance: Two minds understand each other when they are attuned/honed to each other, That is, when both the minds are operating at a similar frequency, they see similar views.
For instance, say you are floating on a hot air balloon. If you spoke to someone on the ground, his view would be entirely different from yours. You may be able to talk a little about his surroundings, because you know where he is standing, Similarly, he might see your balloon and ask you a few questions about that. But overall, there would not be much to share or connect about. But suppose you spoke to another person in another hot air balloon at the same height, Then so much of the view is shared, and thereby you both can easily connect, right?
Two minds can connect if they share the same level of subtleness of perception. I call this the “LOC” – The level of consciousness of the subtle body. Generally, things like world view, concerns, ideas, perceptions, thoughts, feelings can be easily shared with another being at the same LOC level.
There is ‘what you are seeing’, and ‘from where you are seeing’. The LOC is about ‘from where you are seeing’. If the ‘from where you are seeing’ is common, Then understanding each other would be very effortless.
Connecting to another being who shares your LOC level, I call ‘connecting via. resonance’. Whatever you say to them will be understood fairly easily. Actually you both already see from the same place. The talking is more a celebration of the connection already active. It is a sort of mutual enrichment. Often there is instant recognition here. This kind of relationship does not need much time, And feels comfortable and deep at the start itself.
The other kind of relationship I have had is via. projection/role-play. These kinds of relationships are mostly from external situations (sharing the same environment, context etc.)
What are called ‘situational relationships’ would come under this. # Like the roles of being a colleague/coworker/college lab partner/project partner/college friend in the same class, neighbor next door etc.
# I would also include specific interest group connections under here. Because interest group connections are also somewhat goal based – Check this out, What do you think of this? etc. They are fairly circumscribed and specific to a certain frame and scope.
# Also, any work related relationships would come in this category. Like even the relationship you may have with people standing in the same queue as you to buy movie tickets.
# Even healing group members are not necessarily at the same LOC level. For instance, Two people might connect with each other from their unresolved anger issues, or through their common addiction to something, but their LOCs could be vastly different.
# Even relations with family members, relatives etc. could fall here. Because they too are certain frames of role-play.
# Even romantic relations are often projection/fantasy/role-play based. If it does not have enough of resonance elements, then the relationship would fizzle out quickly, i.e. after the ‘enjoyment of the novelty/projection/role-play/fantasy/specific-quality-admiration based interaction’ is completed.
Extremes in the psyche, Can be a curse, When they drive your life, Leading you into more disarray, pain, and destruction.
Healing of any extreme is from the experience of its opposite. That is one way i.e. the method of nulling. The other way is to dissolve and sublimate the extremes into higher understanding. This is the method of dilution.
Extremes when worked upon and resolved, Give the blessing of much higher wisdom, dynamic range, richer understanding/experience, and inclusion, compared to someone who has not experienced them. They serve like more potent manure for creating a taller and larger tree.
Most of suffering in my experience comes from psychological extremes. Achieving balance by working out both sides of the extreme (flexibility), Gives a great combination of exuberance, riches, stability, and control.
Death fills me with a sense of deep awe, respect, wonder, and a sacred silence. I bow down to its power. Death fills me with a kind of gratitude. That I have had the privilege of having this stream of experience, And to be a witness of this body’s inner life process.
Every death is liberation from the form. Seen from a higher perspective, death isn’t a separate unconnected event. Birth and Death are part of a singular continuum. They are different parts of the same process, the same thread, That continues on inexorably.
We have all done this countless times before, Living from different points of view. When moving from form to form, it is the point of attention that shifts. All forms are temporal in nature. Every form that is born also dies. We descend into form and ascend back into the formless. Birth and death are the grandest events that can happen to anyone.
Birth and Death happen to us as ‘consciousness’. We are not born and we do not die. We are the eternal substance (consciousness), Witnessing the plays of both birth and death, And all that happens in the middle we call our lives.
We live in a holographic field. We are the holographic field in essence.
Birth into form and Death into the formless, Is from the crystallization and dissolution of the ‘organic structure’, That creates the ‘point of view/lens/focal apparatus’.
A fully crystallized self structure creates/projects a fully crystallized world. On the other hand, when the self structure is in transformation, The world seen/perceived/experienced also appears to undergo a transformation. Birth and Death is like the shifting of the point of observation/attention/focus.
For visualization: Imagine a 360 degree camera moved around your room. At all times, all the contents of your room would be visible in the video. However, you would see the details and sizes of objects varying wildly depending upon the camera’s position. Similarly, we experience the same general field from all the points of view within it.
Since the field is holographic, Every point in the field contains the whole in principle, Just like a drop of water contains the same essence as the whole ocean. Or just like the structure of the atom is said to mimic the structure of the universe itself. So through studying the self, all knowledge of the world/universe too can be gained.
The self and the world are complements of each other. As is the self, so is the world. As is the world, so is the self. They both go together. They arise together and pass away together. Studying the self is also a study of the world. Studying the world is also a study of the self. You are only aware of the world, to the extent you are aware of the self. You are only aware of the self, to the extent you are aware of the world.
I could say, from more practical terms, The lens through which you perceive the world, Would be the entirety of your biochemistry (inc. all neurotransmitters). So the biochemistry and neurotransmitters would be the switching station to access all possible worlds in the human body.
I am generally witnessing the play of the field/existence/god through a point of attention within my body. If I move this point of attention outside/beyond my organic body, then it would be called an out of body experience. Generally when we say out of body, or this concept of beyond or outside, we imagine a certain direction or a different point in space-time. But in my experience, out of body experience is far vaster than that conception. It is a non-linear, non-Euclidian movement in the field. It is like the idea of ‘concepts’. All ‘concepts/ideas’ actually transcend space and time. Even simple ones like a ‘chair’ etc. When you shift your mind from one concept to another, what direction are you moving in? (x, y, or z axis?)! When you move from between the states of consciousness from waking to dreaming, what direction do you move in?! Even in general science today, we speak about movement in the 4th dimension, but this is quite inconceivable. What direction would you move in to move in the 4th dimension?! There are many such movements possible in the consciousness field that are outside of the space-time physical reality framework we generally think in.
Experience Waterfall: …Infinite/Nothing —>— Finite/Something —>— Infinite/Nothing… …Infinite filling in —>— Infinite emptying out… There is only the endless flow/fall/stream, Creating the dream experience as it moves through.
I’m looking at the perspective of how life expresses itself from inside out. The something that seems to come from nothing… The potentialities/fires that seem to arise in the inner space… It starts off from the pure desires/abstract feelings, And then projects and focuses itself into the outer realm. I feel the very act of being alive is the burning of these inner fires.
Using 2nd person perspective narration: Your life in the world, Is like the sex between your inner fires with the world. You are always in the state of sex (as a verb). Your inner fires are penetrating into the world and that is what allows you to see it. In fact whatever you see is what your inner fires are sex-ing with. So you could say, you are always in relationship, and relating. All experience is from relating. This act of relate-ing, sex-ing, is going on and on, and is content agnostic. It is like how when your eyes are open, you simply keep seeing, no matter what is in front of you. That faculty is simply shining its light unconditionally on whatever is outside. Similarly your life energies are simply in a state of relating and sex, being content agnostic. This is where I think the sayings that ‘we are love itself’ come from. Because all that you experience, is from this unconditional perfusion into the world, propelled by this longing force we call love.
The fire within burns unconditionally, And unconditionally burns all that it touches, And unconditionally lights up everything around it. This is true for all of life i.e. the non-physical fire that animates. All life is this unconditional fire. This burning, and lighting up, is a kind of touch. Even light falling on something is like the subtlest touch. ‘The burning’ is a more intense penetrative touch. Even to simply just see something, is to relate with it.
You are Shiva, the fire(energy), Penetrating into Prakriti(matter), In a state of unconditional total relating/sex-ing. ALL relating is sex at various levels – from the lightest touch to the most intense. What we generally call sex in essence I think is the most intense form of relating. To be in contact with the fire itself vs. being in its light sphere or heat sphere. Ultimate sex is the ultimate union. From this perspective/context: Sex = Yoga = Union.
One’s Personality = One’s Subtle Body. Personality = Likes and Dislikes, Forming the 0s and 1s of reality perception (tapestry). There is a vision/awareness and then there is relationship (1,0) (like, dislike). # When you like something, you strive to see it more, bring it more into your awareness. # When you dislike something, you strive to see it less, push away that from your awareness. So avoidance is a manifestation of dislike, And approach is a manifestation of like. Push = Avoidance —vs—– Pull = Approach. That is the dance of Push-Pull, Attraction-Aversion, Like-Dislike.
The world is a fractal and holographic. …To Zoom out —— To Zoom in… In both cases you get infinity. The more you see in one thing, the more you see everything. The more you see everything, the more you see in one thing. The intensity of seeing is independent of the content of seeing. When we like, we open up the full intensity (towards 1). When we dislike, we try to close down the intensity (towards 0). And there are all the inbetween mixtures. The intensity of this seeing depends on the vibrance of life energies within. All liberation is about unconditionality, to become unconditional, To just be full on and on, for its own sake.
Karma means ‘action’ (verb). Samskhara means ‘imprint/engram’ (noun). In colloquial usage though, karma and samskharas are used interchangeably.
The mind in its clear pure state is like a clear mirror, Where it simply reflects reality exactly the way it is. Now, imagine a mirror that holds memory. Suppose you go on a trip and carry the mirror to various places. On returning home, you would be seeing colorings/ghosts of the past all over the mirror image, right?
This is the nature of a mind loaded with samskharas (impressions/imprints from the past). The completion process (samskhara dahana kriya) is about thinning out these imprints, so that you can eventually see clearly through them.
One good visualization to imagine this is: Imagine you are holding a ‘color checker board’ in front of you.
If the color slots on the checker board are totally opaque, then, you can only see the color and nothing through it. If the color in the piece is made more and more transparent (decreasing opacity), you would gradually start to see what is behind the color piece more and more. After reducing the opacity i.e. thinning the color to a certain point, you would be able to easily see through it even if there is a bit of coloring still present, right? This is what is done in the completion process.
Generally in psychology, when the light of your consciousness shines through the color pieces in the checkerboard, it is known as ‘projection’. # If the color piece is totally opaque, then there is ‘total projection’. That is, you are entirely seeing your past imprint and nothing of the actual reality in front of you. Total projection completely obscures reality. # If the color checker board has no colors and if all the colors are replaced with clear glass pieces, then there is no projection at all, and you are directly seeing what is in front of you with no coloring. There is then 0 projection. So essentially, the spectrum is like this: Projection(0% transparency) ——- (50% transparency)——- Reality(100% transparency)
For most of us, there is a wide spectrum of opacity variation for these color pieces. It is neither 0% nor 100% transparent but somewhere in the middle. Positive colored pieces make us see life through positive colorings (seeing through rose tinted glasses). This is commonly referred to as good karma. Negative colored pieces make us see life through negative colorings/lenses (seeing through a hell bent mind). This is commonly referred to as bad karma.
The very process of living exhausts karma (colloquial usage). The main difference between a regular person and spiritual seeker is that the spiritual seeker exhausts the karma at a much higher intensity. Exhausting karma here means thinning the colors out. All samskharas in a way are partially unlived or undigested experiences. That is why they continue to color our present experience. To digest all these imprints is therefore the goal of the completion process. In a way, these positive coloring and negative coloring set of lenses are what you call your identity (that is, the combination of our specific likes-dislikes). So in the completion process, you are also thinning your identity out and eventually merging with the actual reality.
Consider the experience of eating physical food from a plate. At first we have a more intense experience of it in our tongue, And then we experience the more subtle experience of the consumed food getting digested, right? Then what follows is, the nutrients are extracted and the remaining food is sent out. Similarly, Karma is food for the gods/soul. Digestion of karma (the completion process), enriches the soul with wisdom which are the nutrients in this case.
There is a dimensional gap between quantity and quality. Because quality is immeasurable, analog, and infinite. Any amount of quantity will still be “infinitely less” than infinity.
Experience by nature is qualitative. Like consider a dream. What is the nature of it? Is is measurable in any sense in space or time? How large was it? How much time did it contain?
Even now, every scene you see is infinite, But you can snap a 12MP digital photo of that using your camera. The sound that you hear from your guitar is infinite, But you can record a 128kbps Mp3 using a sound recorder. The digitization process converts the pure infinite analog into bits to approximate the quality of it. But the resolution of this captured information can never equal the infinite resolution/information present in the actual reality of creation.
Similarly our minds are like the digitized versions of what reality actually is. The real “terrain” though is infinite. Our minds are like captured maps from this terrain, Like a combination of photos and illustrations. The real nature of existence is unfathomable and beyond all logic.
Negative |||||| (fighting to survive) |||||| –Balanced/0– |||||| (enhancing self) |||||| Positive. The self is a structure. The world is a structure. The [changing structure of the self] is in a [changing relationship] with the [changing structure of the world]. The 3 happen together and play out as a singular dream of experience. It is not that any of them is causing the other to happen, though it may appear to be.
# When the world appears to not only maintain the self but also enhance it, there is the experience of nurture, pleasure, and the positive. # When the world appears to not only not enhance, but also actively violate and attack the self structure, there is the experience of fighting/adapting/resisting to survive, felt as war, pain, and the negative. # When the world appears to simply maintain you in a kind of zero gain arrangement, it is felt as balance, where there is neither enhancement nor depreciation and things just go on cyclically with no net change.